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Post by Tmasgio on Sept 15, 2008 17:57:58 GMT -6
I was reading the posts and taking a walk down memory lane in my early days of recovery. You know the hellish frightening days of all of the "What If's". The one phrase that stuck in my head came from my mother and that was " Dont worry son one day you will wake up and say " Wow I feel pretty good today" I held those words true but as I told my mother yesterday " I am still waiting"
Meaning- I never had a good body day. I have good pain days if that is possible. Is pain ever good? Anyway it is just a cold and rainy day and these are the days were all of the aches and pains are just Hell.
So what makes a good day for you? Mine is taking a walk with the kids and wife on a good but not to cold or hot day and just watching them throw rocks in the creek or just playin with the kids in the neighborhood. It makes me feel young again and then I guess that's what it is all about.
Each day I hope for something better but I guess we will all have to work through the pain.
BTW- Oh and of course a good day is going down to the farm and riding horses and just listening to the farm sounds.
Thanks for listening,
Tony
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Post by bethann on Sept 15, 2008 20:08:58 GMT -6
You know Tony it is funny that you ask that! What is a good day!? I consider it a good day if I have made it through the day with out complaining that I hurt. I get so tired of complaining that I hurt that I am sure everyone around me gets sick of it too! I feel so good when I can make it through a couple of days without telling someone that I hurt (not to say that it ever goes away). After a few days though it is hard to not say it or show the pain on my face. I am happy to have my husband to tell how I feel but the other day he even commented on how I was not saying how I hurt and he jokingly said "sometimes I think you make it up!" Oh that hit a spot! So do we not complain or should we always say how we feel? And how do you do that without complaining?
Beth
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Post by Day on Sept 15, 2008 23:30:59 GMT -6
;DA Good day is one NOT spent focused on my pain...
:DA Good day is one spent trying to help others....
:-/A Good day is one spent getting out of my comfort zone and trying something new...
;DA Good day is one spent laughing with my children or grandchildren...
;)A Good day is one spent enjoying my husbands company...
;DA Good day is one more day just to enjoy living...
:)But then again, I'm pretty easy to please.
It's the simple things that are most worthwhile ;D
Peace, May God Bless All,
Day
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Post by Ali-Brad on Sept 16, 2008 7:35:51 GMT -6
Hi, Well I'm almost 4yrs post 2nd op and I have just an awful two weeks. I am never without pain and it's so hard to not complain, even when trying to be positive. On top of my tumor issues, surgery, post-op damage and pain, I have a weakness in my lower back (they told me I have a reduced disc there). Well on top of everything else I cope with, I had two 'electric' shocks about 10 mins apart whilst showering/getting dressed two weeks ago. It stopped me in my tracks and I felt sick. The shock and pain radiated down my legs and I've had two weeks of severe pain, reduced movement and muscles so knotted in my back I could have knitted a jumper with them !! I know a lot of the problem is down to post-op posture, mobility, etc., etc., but I just can't remember what it's like to be pain free. We battle on and smile where we can. Nobody but other SCT 'mates' can understand what it is like. So pleased to have this site. Alison  |
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Post by Ali-Brad on Sept 16, 2008 7:38:37 GMT -6
 forgot to say what is a good day !! A simply day with a lie in, my husband off work, a relaxed day around the house, take away for tea, a good film and pain that is semi-managed. The simple things please me. Alison
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Post by Joel on Sept 18, 2008 11:23:05 GMT -6
This is a great read. Thanks Tony, for starting this thread. I must say I have been suffering from a continuous depression ever since I returned from my trip in the summer. I haven't felt like getting on here much because I didn't want to bring others down. I haven't felt like doing much of anything except escaping.
I will try to make a better effort to get out of my funk, by concentrating on the things that make me happy, and these are the little things like going to the nearby coffee shop every morning and reading my books, taking my kids to school, writing in my office, doing some little things around the house like replanting the bushes that fried in the searing Nevada sun, watching a good baseball/football/basketball (hell even a soccer game kinda works!) game, watching my daughter marching during half-time at her high school's friday night game, watching my son do flips on his skateboard in front of the house, listening to some good music, eating something great, and finally yes, drinking a nice glass of red wine.
So--I can still see, hear, taste, and write. I can still do these things well. I need to fill my life with these types of experiences. Thanks for listening. Please, go do something you can still do, and forget about everything else...
Joel
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Post by tc on Sept 18, 2008 12:12:26 GMT -6
Dear Joel,
I'm so sorry that you have been depressed lately. Please know that your wit and funny comments here always make me smile. We all miss you whenever you are away. I loved your list of what makes a good day.
Teresa
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Post by bethann on Sept 18, 2008 14:20:10 GMT -6
Joel,
Good to see you back posting!
When our Son-in law's parents (before the wedding) arrived in Michigan (they are from Calafornia) for the wedding (knowing we were wine lovers) brought us a bottle of Seven Deadyly Zins. Oh, that is a great wine! I have just started liking the red wines, started out sweet went to Chardoney (still my favorite).
I do have to say when we have a good day with our children it can perk up your whole outlook on life!
Beth
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Post by bethann on Sept 18, 2008 14:22:51 GMT -6
please do not pay any attention to the bad spelling in that last post!!! I do not know who wrote it    (thank God for spell check!) |
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Post by sophieruth on Sept 18, 2008 19:21:15 GMT -6
Good day is when I am not hurting more than the day before. Today was not a good day... I am still new to this pain business being practically pain free for the first 10 months after surgery and perhaps naively expecting that I will be "as good as new". Sophie
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forgot to say what is a good day !! A simply day with a lie in, my husband off work, a relaxed day around the house, take away for tea, a good film and pain that is semi-managed. The simple things please me.
