Post by ScrapHeap on Mar 26, 2008 10:58:47 GMT -6
I can relate. I was a little self conscious about my stride during my decline before my surgery. I was always the athletic type and very confident. I walked at a brisk pace everywhere and like I owned the joint. As my tumor grew I began to have balance and stamina issues.
It's natural, I think, to be somewhat self conscious when there is change. I.E., something out of the norm for us. But a lot of it has to do w/us coming to terms w/it. For me it was simply going back to my philosophy I had always subscribed to. If I worry about what everyone else thinks, all I would do is worry and have time to do nothing else. I, for one, am happy just to be walking again however bad it may be or look. And I agree w/just living your life as best as you can.
Dating? Wow! I've been (re) married for 10 years now. I am pushing 47. I can't offer much there except moral support. I think it shows great courage by you AND your main squeeze trying to live a somewhat normal life under tough circumstances. Kudos to both of you for that. 30 something is still young. I use to go go go at that age. As I got older I was much more selective about where I went out, when I went out and who I went/hung out with. Eventually it became on occasion instead of frequent. I tended to go home sooner. Even later on, going out meant to a good friends place. In turn them or they coming to my place. I found and still find that much more rewarding.
I know it's a hard mentality to adopt but the truth might set you free. You can walk. If it isn't pretty or perfect, so be it. Whomever has a problem w/you doing that, it's their problem. Not much you can do for them except pray. So keep on steppin'.
It's natural, I think, to be somewhat self conscious when there is change. I.E., something out of the norm for us. But a lot of it has to do w/us coming to terms w/it. For me it was simply going back to my philosophy I had always subscribed to. If I worry about what everyone else thinks, all I would do is worry and have time to do nothing else. I, for one, am happy just to be walking again however bad it may be or look. And I agree w/just living your life as best as you can.
Dating? Wow! I've been (re) married for 10 years now. I am pushing 47. I can't offer much there except moral support. I think it shows great courage by you AND your main squeeze trying to live a somewhat normal life under tough circumstances. Kudos to both of you for that. 30 something is still young. I use to go go go at that age. As I got older I was much more selective about where I went out, when I went out and who I went/hung out with. Eventually it became on occasion instead of frequent. I tended to go home sooner. Even later on, going out meant to a good friends place. In turn them or they coming to my place. I found and still find that much more rewarding.
I know it's a hard mentality to adopt but the truth might set you free. You can walk. If it isn't pretty or perfect, so be it. Whomever has a problem w/you doing that, it's their problem. Not much you can do for them except pray. So keep on steppin'.
