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Post by Joel on Feb 28, 2008 23:17:57 GMT -6
This is always a fun (and therapeutic) thread, so I'll start it again here. And here's my latest vent story:
I went to the movies the other day with my wife. Afterwards, I had to slowly get up, stretch, and otherwise shake out the stiffness, only to have my wife get mad at me for taking so long that we weren't able to beat the crowd out of the theater! You'd think that after 11 or so years of this, she'd understand! Arrrg!
Joel
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Post by Tmasgio on Feb 29, 2008 13:35:18 GMT -6
Joel,
I know what you mean. My wife yells at me when I "push" it to hard but then no more than 15 minutes of sitting down she wants me to start doing some other task? Complicated to say the least.
Tony
PS- Very nice pic of yourself. I like that we can put the posts with a face.
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Post by ScrapHeap on Feb 29, 2008 15:49:08 GMT -6
MAN! I could go on and on under this thread. I try to keep in mind how frustrating it is for those closest to us. Plus they don't live in our shoes directly. Just indirectly. Yet they are subjected to the outcome while trying to maintain some sort of consistency with their life away from us. You know. The life we USE to have. BAH! I don't miss it. Ummm, YES I DO! On the other hand, no I don't. They can have it. But I also want it back!
Sometimes I can go out in the back yard and clean up dog poop w/the rake - scooper shovel thingie. Takes me forever (i have 3 large dogs) and more than one go. It is somehow satisfying to accomplish a simple chore like a "normal" person. To celebrate and reward myself I grab a Coke, a snack, and my ciggs. I take all directly to my fav recliner, push back w/a pillow under my lower legs. AHHH! OH! Got the TV remote too. Life is GOOD...... UNTIL.......... "Honey. When are you going to empty the dishwasher? And I thought you were going to try to clean up the dog poop." GRRRRRRRRRRR!
OK! I can live w/asking to empty the dishwasher, do laundry, whatever. Ya know, while I'm getting some things done, why not take some of the load off? But making 3 - 4, maybe more trips outside to clean up the poo not getting even noticed? GEEZE! She was RIGHT THERE when I told her where I was going. But watcha gonna do? I'll tell you what I do........ I get po'ed, feel one of those slow volcano rushes of anger coming on. At which point I usually blurt out. "Hey @#$%*! Where's my dinner?" Keep in mind, both of us hate to cook. Loath cooking is more accurate. Works like a charm. At least it makes me feel better. Never mind the consequences. ;D
Yeah, I do have a sick and twisted sense of humor. Always have. That's something I didn't lose or have to give up. I know it often doesn't set well w/others, including my wife. But I don't care much. It entertains me. ;D
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Post by WhiteAngel on Feb 29, 2008 18:43:19 GMT -6
Hey Joel,
this is a great idea, you know what get's me, is when they say you must accecpt what's happening and they think that they know what's best for you...it's like because you don't have a full set of abilities anymore you lose your right to make your own decisions anymore and if you fight for them they say you are stubborn...loosing your abilites they think you are also loosing your mind..
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Post by 8338 on Feb 29, 2008 19:42:59 GMT -6
Joel,
A thing that really ticks me off is when others complain about their aches and pains, which are the normal aging aches and pains, and then they joke about one day probably using a cane or perhaps a wheelchair. I always say to them "what do you think I go through" and they say, Barb, I didn't mean you. If only they knew. Ugggggggh........they are so ignorant aren't they. Maybe I was before all of this to. This sure opened up my eyes to people with disabilities and what is important and just plain stupid!!!!!!!!!!
Barb :-)
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Post by drummer904 on Feb 29, 2008 21:05:36 GMT -6
You said it Barb, i think we were all ignorant before this. And yet like u said, people around us will complain about things some of us would love to feel again! but what can u do, we're all human.
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Post by paul55 on Mar 1, 2008 8:04:48 GMT -6
I get the same as Joel with my wife. I go food shopping and my wife will get ahead of me, way ahead, and I'll stop. Then she has to walk all the way back, and says to me, "what's the matter?", and I'll say "thanks for waiting!" Then she says, "you a**hole!". I fall on the ground laughing!!! She just shakes her head... Venting with a smile....Gotcha.....
I don't get angry at people anymore because they don't understand me or what I'm going thru. I don't expect them to. I have friends that still ask me, are you still numb from the waist down? They just don't understand. And that's ok. Like Drummer says, we're all human!!!
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Post by 8338 on Mar 1, 2008 20:31:37 GMT -6
Hi again,
ooooooooooooooooooooooooo..................I just got back from the store and what really p....ses me off is when people park in the handicap spots that don't have a handicap sticker or license plate!!!!! Two times this happened to me today. I watched one lady pull up into one of the spots, park, her kids got out and then she did and proceeded to walk (briskly) into the store! Also, when they park in the lined spots. I know this man in a wheelchair that can't get out of his van when that happens and has to move to another spot!!!!!!!!!
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Post by paul55 on Mar 2, 2008 6:18:51 GMT -6
Barb, that bothers me as well, although I don't utilize those spaces. They are there for a reason, and those folks that use them unauthorized should have their vehicles towed immediately. I think the places of business should monitor this problem because of the regular abuse. Maybe some parking tickets would sway their attitude a bit!
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Post by drummer904 on Mar 2, 2008 9:45:12 GMT -6
i have a sticker and even though im in a wheelchair, i dont use those spaces because i can do just fine in a regular space. but i see it all the time too were people that can walk perfectly fine use the handicap ones. its just wrong to me. maybe i'll just start saying something! hard to keep anger in these days!
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